Dear A Sad Bean,
Relationships are hard, and it sounds like you need a supportive friend more than a romantic relationship. With both of you having so much going on in your lives right now, maybe it would be good to take a little time away from each other. Take time for yourself and figure out what’s going on in your personal life, and hopefully, she will do the same.
The reason she could be telling you that she doesn’t want a girlfriend is because she cares for you, and doesn’t want you to get your hopes up. Having ups and downs in friendships happens to everyone, but you don’t want this low to be the end of it. Take a step back and re-evaluate what you need and want in a friendship so that you both can start this new chapter on a clean slate. If you still need to talk to someone here on campus, there are great counseling services, and you can learn more about their services here.
How do I balance feeling overwhelmed and unproductive at the same time?
What this question is telling me is that you have been sitting on the couch watching Friends re-runs all day instead of focusing on your to-do list. All jokes aside, feeling overwhelmed feels horrible, and the only way to get over this is to break down big projects into short and simple tasks. Take everything one step at a time, and it might even help to give yourself a time limit.
For example, if you have a paper due in two weeks, try to get it done in one week; so you have one less thing to worry about. Remember that procrastination is NOT your friend. Waiting until the night before to get assignments done is not the answer. To help overcome a lack of productivity, do the same steps you would if you were feeling overwhelmed.
Remember that it’s easier to get things done if you break up your to-do list into smaller tasks.
I hope you get out of this funk soon. If you ever need any extra help with any of your classes Columbia College has amazing tutoring services located in the basement of Edens Library and in the Barbara Bush Center for Science and Technology. Just hop onto TutorTrac here to make your appointment.