Why are women forced into the man’s shadow?
Patriarchal ideals tell us we are supposed to cook, clean, and look like beauty queens to satisfy a man. Certain cultures devalue women’s opinions. Women shouldn’t have to live up to men’s expectations.
When pro athletes are accused of abuse how often does punishment follow? The NHL is the only one of the four major sports without a formal policy addressing domestic abuse and sexual assault. In the following years, Major League Baseball and the NBA also put into place policies addressing domestic, and sexual abuse. All offer therapy, counseling and allow leagues to independently investigate incidents. This informs the athletes that they should not beat women however if they do it’s okay they will cover it up. Women are not regarded, when it occurs to major sports league players exploiting them and this is not fair. As a woman to recognize these athletes getting away with this outrages and teaches me that we are not protected. Getting suspended for 15 games for striking a woman is not a real punishment. Sports leagues announce they are trying, but they need to try harder.
Why is it that men feel entitled to our bodies?
Mary Spears, a mother of three, was shot on the streets for rejecting a man’s advances. The assailant shot Spears in the head, as she exited a venue, and wounded five others before attempting to flee the scene. Cherica Adams was a 24-year-old North Carolina college student who was murdered by a hitman while 8 months pregnant with her first child. Police later determined that her boyfriend, NFL star Ray Carruth, had hired the hitman to kill Cherica after she refused to abort their baby.
Women have to have unwritten rules so they don’t get raped. Women have to travel in pairs, don’t accept drinks from strangers, don’t leave your cup unattended, parking under a light at night, don’t park too close to a dark with a man in it, always remain nice to men so they don’t kill you, etc… But why does society make it harder for women with these things but not men?
It’s at the point where women can’t say no. Every day, women live in fear of being raped or killed by a man. According to the CDC’s National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS): 2010 Findings on Victimization by Sexual Orientation, “91% of the victims of rape and sexual assault are female, and 9% are male”. The discussion typically takes a turn to victim-blaming.
The responsibility shouldn’t be on women. Women do not belong to men. They can’t treat us any way they want and get away with it.
We are not The Man’s Slave.